Test subjects

Tell the McDrive girl to write her QQ
or Facebook ID on the receipt. Ddon't
ask her, tell her. Works most of the time.

This week I received an email from a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. He asked me what to do when you basically know some tricks but you lack the required self-confidence to actually get out there and do it. Well, the best way to grow your self-confidence in this specific area is to start at a comfortable level. Use small bits and pieces of the tips/tricks on this blog on girls you feel acceptably comfortable with, and with whom you don't necessarily need anything. Using the material on girls you are very distant at and see only once and never again is also a way to practice without too much emotional pressure.

For example, you may test your flirting skills on the KFC delivery line girl, a waitress in a coffee-shop or a stewardess on your next flight. Those are very safe test-subjects, who will usually stay polite with you (because they are in function) and you don't have to worry about people you know watching the whole thing.  Start small, slowly look into their eyes a little longer every time you practice, try a new line every now and then and try to analyze their reactions. Once you are feeling comfortable with interacting on a slightly more intimate level you will be able to grow your confidence and techniques bit by bit.

I'm putting a list up in the VIP section of possible test subjects.

Get sex from social media

Facebook: A great, safe tool for
picking up hot girls without having
to meet them first

Admit it, on Facebook you add hot girls that you don't really know, you flirt a little on Facebook chat, maybe do a little webcamming now and then. But getting these girls to actually have sex with you is a whole different dimension. There's a reason why people are so open and talkative on social network sites like Facebook, it's safe. Nobody else can see you, comments can be removed, friends can be blocked and written statae can be withdrawn in a matter of a click of tap.

To get girls out of this comfort zone and get them into your bed isn't the easiest thing to do for most guys. But there are certain proven techniques that can enable you to do exactly that! Basically you need three (3) conditions to be installed correctly.

1. Trust - You need to make sure she trusts you enough to let you access her protected zone (emotional level)
2. Added value - She need to be convinced that what you can give her is quite valuable to her (value level)
3. Attraction - You will need to attract her psyche, emotions and sex (sexual level)

These three ingredients together can potentially make any girl you meet on Facebook or some other social network into real life sexual adventure. Provided you do it all right of course. You can read all about that further ahead on this blog, so keep reading!!

TIP: Make sure you use a NATURAL profile picture that shows what a happy, fun-loving guy you are, keep a good posture, smile (naturally) and try to include an activity that you love to do such as playing the guitar, standing on a snowboard or play beach-volley. Girls love it!

TIP 2: Don't initiate a conversation with a cute sexy girl with things like "hey cutie...wow you look so sexy! wanna chat?" Girls get those kind of messages like a million times a day. Instead, try to open with a funny remark, ask her if she ever jumped from a plane before or something else original. Don't ever give her compliments! That will ruin your game!!!

EXTRA TIP: You can find some of the hottest girls on the sex social networking site Meendo (it's free and fun and a great way to practice your online seduction game!)

Share your story

As a writer it's always very nice to hear something back from readers, it gives me the chance to see more, and broader while I also love to know what happens in other people's lives. And both of us can benefit from both experiences and thoughts. So, do feel very welcome to email and share your own stories about seduction, sex and love. Or maybe you would rather write a guest-post, it's up to you! :)

The dependency pattern

Making a girl depend on you, whether emotional, psychological or physical is a great tactic to make sure she'syours at will. I'm not talking about feeding her drugs or getting her to depend on you financially; rather would you act to be the only guy who truly understands her feelings and emotions. Or you would "simply" give her the best sex she has ever had. I could name a few others, such as social dependency or you helping her ith her maths...at the end it all comes down to a situation in which she barely can do without something you are giving her.

The dependency pattern is a powerful tool in your seduction arsenal. You should always observe carefully and try to determine what her deepest needs really are. Once you figured that one out you can act on this opportunity. You could also use other techniques to escalate or explode certain needs she has, or downgrade them when they're not so favorable for you.

Do they masturbate that much?

Not only we love to play with pussy

To the average John Doe, women may not seem to be lusty wild animals when they're all by their-selves  but certainly make no mistake, they go on masturbating tour more often and longer then we guys do! This is a lesser known fact, but proven and supported by numerous research projects and studies in the past few years. The latest (2012) being an anonymous survey conducted among 16.000 women in the US, Europe and Asia.

One thing this survey shows is that the average woman (28 years old, with regularly sexual intercourse and working a day-job) tends to masturbate some 622 minutes (or 10,3 hours) per month (or 20 minutes a day). -on average-. Imagine how many hours the dirty minded girls spend working their own pussy! So knowing that, you also know that girls are more willing to have sex with you than what you may initially think. And that's a great confidence booster :)

Man = hunter

This article is part of the series Foundations of manhood

Fact: You are a guy, she is a girl - Nothing changes that and it comes with certain natural preferences, psychological behavior and sexually oriented drives. Especially our Testosterone makes us the alpha-male we are. We hunt and we capture. And because  it's one of our most primary (and oldest) genetic behavior patterns, you cannot simply walk away from that. You may try a few times in your life, but basically that hunting instinct will always be there. The point of all this is that if you're a hunter deep  down inside, you should let those feelings work. Don't let them being stalked by fears of rejection, self-sabotage techniques of the ego nor social perception of values (because they are dramatically way off!). So I hope this gives you a little extra motivation to become the man you really are!

Invent & create your life

Bart is one of my role-models in
my forever young life

Okay, what do I exactly mean by this? Most people just plainly "live" their life, but to be truly happy requires a little extra effort first. See, if you first determine which things, beliefs and feelings are important to you then you can also organize your life into getting the most of of it. Let's say a few of them are a passionate sex life, people to look up to you and a luxury lifestyle (typical male values). Then you know that you have to put energy in those things so that you can lift them to higher levels. More satisfaction, more inner happiness.

Well, this is about
my lifestyle

As for the passionate sex life thing, you may as well keep reading this blog because doing that will give you a nearly guaranteed success in getting any girl in your bed. And when you're at that level, people look up to you. The money part...well, figure that one out by yourself, I think I do enough around here (where got time lah) --- Oh, and do remember, happiness means libido, more of it and better ;)

Importance of holding her hand

As he walks with her down the street, he knows he has to make sure she will continue to perceive him as the attractive yet sensual alpha-male. He takes her hand without hesitation and holds it manly in his own. 

This is with a lot of girls a brilliant way of keeping the control while making her feel you’re sweet. It also allows further escalation and gets her used to being touched by you. If you can, and her personality and emotional state allow you to, always make her hold you hand. For women the feeling of holding a guy’s hand brings them a state of comfort and safety.

Holding her hand while walking with her may seem very obvious, but believe me, you will be amazed how many guys justsimply dn’t take importunity  Mae sue you don’t make that stake! Note: in spcific cases I adice not to use this basic seduction method.

Does size really matter?

Penis sizes, important?
What is the average?

Most guys believe that the size of their power-drill matters to a girl. Well, that's true. But it doesn't mean that if you're "smaller dicked" you cannot give her enough pleasure to get her in ecstasy. You see, a guy can have a 22 centimeter cock, but may not have the ability to satisfy a girl the way she love's it best. Therefor, you should always focus primarily on your sexual skills (see VIP section) and only second on actively growing your dick size (again, see VIP). Let me get into an example...

Quick expert tip: Anchoring

This is a technique that, later on, allows you to bring-up emotions and feelings on demand which then can be used to influence (or completely change) values and believes she has. Basically what you do with anchoring is attaching a certain gesture, facial expression or signal to a particular feeling inside of her. A way of creating subconscious body-language signals to trigger them later when you need them. If you master this technique you will also be able to learn advanced seduction- and mind control techniques.

You can anchor big feelings in larger gestures, and others in smaller signals. But try to keep it as realistic as possible. The trick is to let her sub-conscience absorb your signals without her conscious mind interfering.

The hard-to-get tactic

She desperately wants you

This technique is quite basic and relatively easy to play, especially on girls who are too hot and too popular. You've heard it before and it's true, if you play hard-to-get specific girls (I will teach you which ones later) find it very hard to resist on getting you. The things we can't get are often the most desirable things... And that's exactly how you're gonna play her.

Boyfriend destroyers, #1

This is one of the many example responses you can use in the the Boyfriend Destroyer Sequence, an expert seduction  technique used by pro-seducers. More about this technique as well as many more other examples elsewhere on this blog, so stay here!

The fractionation technique, 100% success within 10 minutes. It's the deadliest of 'em all!

Fractionation was discovered by Sigmund Freud and further developed / enhanced by Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) founder John Grinder. The deadly seduction technique was first only used only the  seduction underground scene, but when it received some media attention it resulted in some controversy and confusion. What’s amazing about the fractionation technique is that it's said to be one of the few “forbidden patterns” which provides the ultimate seduction technique, a shortcut with guaranteed success.

Picking up girls with the "cold reading" technique

Cold reading is a great tool that can really help you in how to attract agirls.  It’s one of the amazing  amazing seduction techniques that builds comfort, gets them to show up for your dates and get them talking and thinking sex.  It takes some time to perfect the skill, but it’s well worth it because it will make you much better at attracting those hot girls.

A good body gets you more

Matthew Fox

There's absolutely no rule that says you have to do the gym two times daily to get all the girls. However, maintaining a healthy and attractive bodyshape does more then great punch-lines, sweet talking and your good fashion taste.

Just like us, girls just die for a good body. Slightly different from us, that's true because they have a complicated check- and balances sheet full with preferences and wishes. But to be fair, a girl's sexual mind is -very- strong and it just can't resist a sexy body!

So, if you really wanna make some good progress then work your body a little more often. For most regular guys (this includes me) a bi-daily 10-minute strong (home) workout will do an very acceptable trick. And don't forget, by eating enough carbo and protein, the muscle-building goes faster.

A note about "extended one night stands"

Orgasmic sex screams for more!

Even though porn actresses fuck professionally, sometimes every week, most of them still have plenty of sex outside of their work. Why? Because great sex is fucking addict-able!

This is the reason why you should always get the most out of your best girls. What I mean is, when you have orgasmic good sex with a girl, why stop there? If the sex was SO AWESOME (and you will learn here how to be the best fucking sex God in the world) then she will definately let you do the magic more often!

She may would want to bind you, but if you're a happy free guy then be the man who tells her straightforward that you want to keep it on the ecstasy level instead of the love level. She will have not much choice then to accept that because she as well will hunker of this kind of bed action again.

By creating a girl-stash you will be insured of enough choice to make every fantasy reality. And at that level...little men have settled!

The one-night-stand, an expert overview, tips and tricks

One night stand sex

The fact that the one-night stand is so interesting is of a kind larger than any our other sexual escapade. It requires a chase, delivers a prize and gives almost instant satisfaction. One-night stands are a firecracker of sex: short, explosive, easily found and leaving a lasting memory that often trumps the actual experience.

But beware! The single luxury of one-night stands centers around attachment. With committed sex, you are expanding love. With one-night stands however, interactions are physical more then anything else. Take my tips for one-night stands and enjoy the game!

The "orgasmic" French kiss

How to French kiss
How to give a girl an orgasmic French kiss

Virtually every person above 18 years old can remember their first French kiss back in high school. It was a great experience for some and more like a tongue-war nightmare for others. But since then, we've all found out that French kissing is a very personal- and sensual (and often sexual) experience.

Because of the fact that women's lips are one of their foremost erogenous zones (sexually sensitive), it's very important for men to leave a lasting, eroticized impression in their (french) kisses. Do bare in mind that if you French kiss a girl like no other guy kisses her, letting her experience a French kiss like she never had before, you will most probably get to kiss something else soon after that! Do it right and she will long for your sex so much that she would almost instantaneously follow you to your bedroom! No jokes guys, this is my personal experience time and time again! So How to develop the perfect "orgasmic" French kissing techniques? ...

3 types of attraction

Do you know how to attract a girl? Most of us have some things that work well for us. But even those of us who are pretty good players probably don’t realize why certain seduction techniques work and other seduction routines don’t have much success.

To make it more easy for you to understand this whole thing, San's gonna break up attraction into its three types.

The four levels of competence in getting any girl to have sex with you

Here is something that you must know and learn when it comes to seducing girls...
It’s the four levels of competence, something every master knows, and you can use it as a guide to seducing girls and women.

It’s really important for guys to realize that where you’re at now is not where you’re always going to be. The more you work on it, the better your game will get.

This is how it goes:

Getting girls into your bed with the Double Bind Technique

Seduce girls with the
double bind technique

Here are some tips to get girls to sleep with you or do whatever you want using the double bind technique.  The double bind technique is used when you’re getting a girl to shape her behavior towards your desired end-result by getting her to accept your sexual frames.  A double bind is where you ask a question or make a statement, and no matter how she answers, she'll have to accept the sexual frame you’re setting.

An example of a double bind a girl could give you: “Are you a player?”  Either way that you answer, you’re accepting her frame.  If you say that you are, you’re telling her that you’re a cool, suave player that’s trying to impress you.  If you say that you’re not, what you’re actually saying is that you’re a nice guy and you’re not like those guys.