Lead the way

Learn how to seduce women
Taking the lead in interactions
with your female subjects

As a man, you have certain essential rules to play by as has been done for ages and is expected from you as a man when you are in the presence of a woman. One of those basic yet vital rules of the seduction game is that you should always take the lead when you're talking to or flirting with a girl or when there is a female present. She wants and expects you to do so and you absolutely need to follow that road if you want to move any foot further then just a plain and boring conversation with her. It could be very nice talking to her, but lets='s be honest, it's a million times more fun when she's naked and in your bed!

What does this mean in details?

Continue reading: Seduction secrets > Leading conversations
Or read this article in Indonesian: Pria harus memimpin wanita

Don't convince her, convince yourself!

Self convidence and seduction

Go ahead, admit it, when you're approaching a hot girl, deep inside you feel insecure and scared to death she will reject you or even worse! But all that fear only exists inside of you and has absolutely no fair basis at all. In fact I can tell you this one little secret with an enormous impact: If you wanna get a girl to do with you whatever you want her to do (including the naughty things), then you should convince yourself rather then to convince her!

Sexually seducing hot girls
Tricks, secrets, Techniques

This may sound a bit out of the ordinary but here’s why. Girls almost always (instinctively and naturally) fall for guys who are confident and who show a certain degree of personal power and charisma. Once you have that, no matter how ugly you may be, any girl will want to go with you. Don’t take it too far, don’t act like an asshole...just show your relaxed side, let her feel naturally comfortable and  don’t be afraid to cross the social conversation barrier a little into the realm of sexual seduction. Also use body-language, anchoring and other tricks to get even better results. You can read more about those techniques further along on this blog.

Wear to attract!

Rob's got style

Too many guys out there (I encounter them on a daily basis) try so hard to game pretty, sexy and cute looking girls, but when they would see themselves in the mirror...they would be ashamed of their own dressing-style! Come on folks, you're not going to attract hot girl by looking like a nerdy, poorly clothed man! Girls like to look good in trendy fashion and they love to see guys doing the same.

Do yourself a BIG favor an walk over to your wardrobe (if you even have one) and THROW OUT everything that doesn't comply to current fashion trends! Next, go to a good fashion-store, or even more convenient, visit Amazon's men-fashion section (which always offers great deals on current trendy fashion) and get yourself updated :)

Don't know how to choose a good looking, attractive style for yourself that attracts girls? Find a well-dressed girl who is willing to help you. It can be your older sister, your best friend or (sometimes not the best option) an ex. To help you out a little bit, here are a few examples (I've recently bought myself) that will definitely get you going with the ladies:

By Don Ed Hardy: Fleur de lis Ringer with large tattoo print $20.95 (cheap and satisfactory, wear it often)

Rude Indigo bleach-washed hooded denim vest $44.50 (good quality for this price)

Yoropiko Pink/SkyRoyal Hungry Dragon denim $899.00 (well-worth if you have this kind of cash)

Allegra K tight-fitting long-sleeve top $14.20 (great item to wear on the more formal occasions

Seducing is a game

Seducing girls...
Like a game of poker

Just like playing a game of cards, picking up girls should be fun and exciting. These are the best motivators you will ever get apart from the actual prize you can win. Besides that, there are more things that link a game of cards with the game of seduction. Imagine you are playing poker... You may have a very good hand, but if you fail to bet into it your game is lost and you end up with nothing. On the opposite, you could have a very bad hand of cards...but this doesn't mean at all you cannot play a successful game. Bluffing yourself to a winning position is a very good tactic when it comes to picking up girls as well! So have fun, play your game well, and don't be sad if you're not a top-ranked hunk attracting all the girls on natural pilot...it's the way you play that decides what you can or cannot get!

What if a girl has a boyfriend?

So, you're playing a cute girl...she has a boyfriend and you know it. And she knows that you know it. What is your approach? Well to be very straight-forward: IGNORE! She ,may from time to time mention him to remind you she's taken...just nod your head with a bit of envy in your expression and say nothing. Don't ever respond on anything that has to do with her boyfriend, she will soon enough know you don't care one bit about the boy and that you are MUCH MORE INTERESTING!

The thing is, if you get involved into any form of discussion with her about some particular guy who happens to be her boyfriend, the subject is shifted from you to him. Result: her thoughts will be focussed on him while she should ONLY be thinking about YOU. If you don't follow this rule you will never ever going to get it on with her! It may get her to realize (even more) that what she's doing with you is wrong...she may feel her emotional attachment to the boy at that moment...she may even compare his pros with your cons...hell, she may even do it all! Conclusion: get the subject out of the way as soon and smooth as possible.

Boyfriends are bullshit. Ignore their existence and game girls like you would do normally. Create a fun and exciting new world with just the two of you...unless the guy is standing right next to her of course. And what the fuck, if he's no match to you it will soon enough be evident to her that she's better of without him!

Remember it's a game of attraction. If you play the better game, she will be your trophy. Relationships come and go, nowadays they never last very long...so do feel free to seduce her boyfriend or not ;)

Emotional momentum and texting

In the game of seduction, keeping emotional momentum after you've met a girl is very important. One of the most primary, powerful and best tools for doing that without overextending yourself is text messages. Come up with a good variety of original, sweet, funny and interesting texts you can send to her, starting from the very day you meet her. You should have actual phone conversations within 2-3 days of first meeting, but keeping a text exchange going insures that you stay fresh in her mind and maintain her positive emotional associations with you.

Alpha-dominance vs. Rapport

Alpha-male dominance vs. Rapport

One thing we know for sure is that girls come in all different flavors, varieties, shapes and sizes. Not only in looks but more importantly in inner configuration and the manifestation of that, their behavior. The way girls look on the outside is usually linked closely to their mental behavior. For example, a 9= or 10-girl looks stunning, sexy and has an extreme physical attraction to guys. They have in most cases a large self-esteem. 7- or 8 type of girls have the looks, but are not naturally the absolute most attractive ones. They usually feel insecure about themselves and look for a guy who is both strong and touch as well as emotionally capable enough to understand her feelings. The lower you go, the more their need grows for this emotional interaction (getting rapport) with a guy.

Communication, more then words

How do I flirt with a girl?

Did you know, that in our communication with girls or even anyone else, words just only count for a very little percentage (some 15%) on the end-result...? What else is so much more important you may wonder? Well, think about gestures, posture, the intonation and tone of voice...but also our ability to interpret our counterpart correctly and swiftly.

In fact, when it comes down to the art of picking up girls, the actual words and sentences you squirt out on her are not quite so important. It's everything around it that matters most! You need to get her, so to speak, in a kind of trance-like state, to allow yourself to agree on whatever things you are about to propose to her. And that you are doing by influencing her mind with smoothly applied signals, the way you get the words out of your mouth into her brain and subtile actions.

Related to all of this is the concept of first impression. It defines for over 50% how a girl mentally sees and perceives you, even months or years after that first single impression, so be sure to get your act together right from the very first start!

Remember these things next time you're picking up a girl: ATTITUDE, APPEARANCE, BODY :LANGUAGE and EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION. If you know how to master these things, it really doesn't matter what you say to her (unless you call her dear mother a fat cow ofcourse).

Test subjects

Tell the McDrive girl to write her QQ
or Facebook ID on the receipt. Ddon't
ask her, tell her. Works most of the time.

This week I received an email from a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. He asked me what to do when you basically know some tricks but you lack the required self-confidence to actually get out there and do it. Well, the best way to grow your self-confidence in this specific area is to start at a comfortable level. Use small bits and pieces of the tips/tricks on this blog on girls you feel acceptably comfortable with, and with whom you don't necessarily need anything. Using the material on girls you are very distant at and see only once and never again is also a way to practice without too much emotional pressure.

For example, you may test your flirting skills on the KFC delivery line girl, a waitress in a coffee-shop or a stewardess on your next flight. Those are very safe test-subjects, who will usually stay polite with you (because they are in function) and you don't have to worry about people you know watching the whole thing.  Start small, slowly look into their eyes a little longer every time you practice, try a new line every now and then and try to analyze their reactions. Once you are feeling comfortable with interacting on a slightly more intimate level you will be able to grow your confidence and techniques bit by bit.

I'm putting a list up in the VIP section of possible test subjects.

Get sex from social media

Facebook: A great, safe tool for
picking up hot girls without having
to meet them first

Admit it, on Facebook you add hot girls that you don't really know, you flirt a little on Facebook chat, maybe do a little webcamming now and then. But getting these girls to actually have sex with you is a whole different dimension. There's a reason why people are so open and talkative on social network sites like Facebook, it's safe. Nobody else can see you, comments can be removed, friends can be blocked and written statae can be withdrawn in a matter of a click of tap.

To get girls out of this comfort zone and get them into your bed isn't the easiest thing to do for most guys. But there are certain proven techniques that can enable you to do exactly that! Basically you need three (3) conditions to be installed correctly.

1. Trust - You need to make sure she trusts you enough to let you access her protected zone (emotional level)
2. Added value - She need to be convinced that what you can give her is quite valuable to her (value level)
3. Attraction - You will need to attract her psyche, emotions and sex (sexual level)

These three ingredients together can potentially make any girl you meet on Facebook or some other social network into real life sexual adventure. Provided you do it all right of course. You can read all about that further ahead on this blog, so keep reading!!

TIP: Make sure you use a NATURAL profile picture that shows what a happy, fun-loving guy you are, keep a good posture, smile (naturally) and try to include an activity that you love to do such as playing the guitar, standing on a snowboard or play beach-volley. Girls love it!

TIP 2: Don't initiate a conversation with a cute sexy girl with things like "hey cutie...wow you look so sexy! wanna chat?" Girls get those kind of messages like a million times a day. Instead, try to open with a funny remark, ask her if she ever jumped from a plane before or something else original. Don't ever give her compliments! That will ruin your game!!!

EXTRA TIP: You can find some of the hottest girls on the sex social networking site Meendo (it's free and fun and a great way to practice your online seduction game!)

Importance of holding her hand

As he walks with her down the street, he knows he has to make sure she will continue to perceive him as the attractive yet sensual alpha-male. He takes her hand without hesitation and holds it manly in his own. 

This is with a lot of girls a brilliant way of keeping the control while making her feel you’re sweet. It also allows further escalation and gets her used to being touched by you. If you can, and her personality and emotional state allow you to, always make her hold you hand. For women the feeling of holding a guy’s hand brings them a state of comfort and safety.

Holding her hand while walking with her may seem very obvious, but believe me, you will be amazed how many guys justsimply dn’t take importunity  Mae sue you don’t make that stake! Note: in spcific cases I adice not to use this basic seduction method.

Picking up girls with the "cold reading" technique

Cold reading is a great tool that can really help you in how to attract agirls.  It’s one of the amazing  amazing seduction techniques that builds comfort, gets them to show up for your dates and get them talking and thinking sex.  It takes some time to perfect the skill, but it’s well worth it because it will make you much better at attracting those hot girls.