The one-night-stand, an expert overview, tips and tricks

One night stand sex

The fact that the one-night stand is so interesting is of a kind larger than any our other sexual escapade. It requires a chase, delivers a prize and gives almost instant satisfaction. One-night stands are a firecracker of sex: short, explosive, easily found and leaving a lasting memory that often trumps the actual experience.

But beware! The single luxury of one-night stands centers around attachment. With committed sex, you are expanding love. With one-night stands however, interactions are physical more then anything else. Take my tips for one-night stands and enjoy the game!


Go to her place

Girls tend to keep their quarters a bit nicer than us guys, which is especially convenient when plans are made on the fly. You might not have expected to take anyone home, so your dirty socks and unwashed bedding can make your place seem like a war zone to her. Don’t ruin the mood with these unnecessary outside forces. Besides, there is nothing like a girl’s bed! 

Also, heading to her place gives you room to flee if things turn out differently then what you expected. A teary confession or a talk about her ex-boyfriend ruins the mood quickly for me. No matter what dampens the flame, an exit plan should always be in the back of your mind in case you have to abandon ship. Leaving is always easier than getting her to leave.

Play safe

Mystery fuels the fire of a one-night stand. She doesn't know you. Everything is physical -- no prior knowledge required and no strings attached. Well, except for one. Do you really need a reason to be safe? With diseases like HIV and syphilis, one-night stands do bring along risks, and you don't want to be bringing home any unwanted souvenirs, now do you? 

We all know a guy who has made the occasional mistake with a girl and drilled his dick without any protection. No matter what she says, unprotected sex can yield fatal results for you, or for her, in the event one of you is carrying a disease that you don’t know about. Don’t ruin a perfectly good night. Be safe and get tested regularly, especially if you’re in the habit of having sex with strangers. 

Seduction artist Neil Strauss recommends keeping a condom in your ass pocket at any given time, not only for for protection, but also for a physical reminder that you might actually could get some.

Be adventurous

Girls want sex to be a manifestation of love. This has inspired a wealth of sexual idealization, the kind that fuels Hugh Grant’s movie career and Kenny G’s CD-sales. One-night stands don’t require the same sort of sensitivity, so leave that all behind. Let this be your opportunity to try out whatever you would like to do with her. 

You have never been with the girl, so communication will guarantee a better experience. She won’t know what you’re into or what works in your short-term chemistry, so let her know exactly what is going on. Be clear but don’t hesitate to live out your fantasy.

Don’t be an ass

Guys tend to let the confidence of a one-night stand to maximize their ego, sometimes in a not so pleasant way. You may not see her again, but don’t make her think you're an egoistic asshole. If not for your own pride, then because all girls talk. Furthermore, this one-night stand may as well turn out to become more. Don’t ruin the opportunity to see her again.

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